I’m 16 and have a bit of a problem with guys around my school. The problem is mainly my size. I remember hearing that the average height of men in the U.S is like 5’10 or so, and I’m only 5’8, almost 5’9 in shoes. There’s more 5’11 and 6’0 guys at my school than guys between 5’4 and 5’10. I’m not exactly short, but not tall by a long shot. I started going to the gym a few weeks ago, gained about 3lbs of muscle, then got a new medicine that suppresses my appetite so that if I don’t force myself to eat I don’t. Because of that I’ve already lost about 2lbs since Wednesday, which may end up making me lose about 15lbs. I’m not exactly built, but I have lean muscles and am a lot stronger than I look.
Unfortunately most guys don’t know that, and constantly underestimate, insult, and ‘pick’ on me. I’m not worried about a fight, as I’ve had 5 years of martial arts and an unfortunately violent pre-teen experience in which I won exponentially more fights than I lost. However, since I stopped fighting period in the middle of my freshman year, most of my classmates don’t know that I am actually have a bit of a flair for fighting. But I really don’t want to fight anymore, and since I don’t do anything wrong (never been late for a class without having been held behind by my last teacher to finish work ((which is excused)), never drank, smoked, done drugs, disobeyed my parents, argued with adults, etc) other guys assume that I’m weak and a coward. Even smaller younger punks assume they can beat me up with ease.
As my family is well off (dad owns his own company and makes ,000 a year) I’ve never actually needed to do work, so I don’t exactly have large muscles. Even though I hit the gym nearly daily (1 or 2 days off a week for recovery) I look more lean than large. Even if I started bodybuilding, I wouldn’t look too intimidating due to my size. I have a medium frame and am doubtful to grow any taller (already taller than my dad, mom, older brother, perhaps my grandparents ((haven’t seen them in years)), etc). My dad’s side of the family has a very large frame, even though they aren’t particularly tall, and my mom’s has more of a lean slender frame. I have a mix (medium), and despite being taller than my dad, am no where near as strong or muscular (ignoring the beer gut) as he is. And I’m nearly 4 inches taller than my mom. My older brother has her frame, and is slight and a slight bit shorter than me, but much more lean. Sad thing is my little brother seems to have Dad’s frame, and is already taller and stronger than I was at his age- he’ll probably be taller and stronger than me by the time he’s 18. I don’t exactly have the ability to be large, as I’m naturally lean and built more for sprinting speed (nearly 17 mph last time I was checked) than muscle strength.
How can I be more intimidating looking to prevent a fight? I don’t exactly think it’s my attitude (I’m extremely confident all of the time) but due to my size other guys try to take advantage of me and insult me constantly. As much as I wish I could be 6’0 or 6’1, I have no family members anywhere near that tall (except one uncle, 5’11) and I don’t think a guy that’s 5’9, potentially 5’10 if I’m lucky and still grow (which I doubt), even a bodybuilder that size can be intimidating enough to stop a fight. Help?
Srry for the long explanation lol